Okay first and formost I would just like to apologize for being so MIA hahaha it's because I literally had nothing to say. I mean...I do..but it would take up hella time to write about it and I wanna make a point when I write blog post, I hate venting with no purpose if that makes sense lol so I figured I would start fresh/new with this topic
I stumbled upon it when I was on FB and my friend Kimberly posted a status about what to do with her exbf's items that she had collected while being with him and it inspired me to write about this topic because I was in her boat and I promise to not be so angry but it will have extreme truth and will either help you or just make you even more depress depending on your current situation hahaha JK =D hope it makes you laugh at least =]
Before I read her post, a couple of months back after my recent break up with ahem you know who, I was doing some major cleaning because I just felt like throwing out things because I was hoarding hella shit that need not to be in my room. I have this crazy big box that I put all my exbf's things and I mean everything from the very first bf in 7th grade(YES HE COUNTS) who attempted to make a card for me but when it was really his cousin who made it for him to give it to me and I ended up dating the cousin for like 8 plus years on and off. hahaha sorry for the confusing relationship story lol but as I was saying...I literally had cards, notes (yes, they were hand written and given to me, not txt or email), jewelry, candies, pictures, and little sentimental items that belonged to them. I had accumlated all those things from my very first exbf to my most recent exbf and went thru them one by one and wound up throwing like 85% of my exbfs things that I wasn't going to wear (old rusty jewlery and clothes), eat (candies, hella yucckky), pictures (GOD DAMMNNN, TALK ABOUT THROW BACKS HAHAHA), and notes (really poor handwritten ones but extrememly sweet and honest). I was able to throw those things out because I had no feelings or emotions towards them. I knew that I would never cross path with them and would not shed a tear if they were to be gone forever and I mean FOREVER.
BUTTTTT the remaining 15% I kept were from exbf's that really meant a lot to me, weither we broke up on bad or good terms. Those memories I just couldn't let go. A very good friend of mine once told me "if they aren't in your life now, toss it out, they are your pass for a reason". ITS SO LEGIT! but, I'm a sucker who believes that even through the bad moments there were good moments and those good moments are the driving factors for me to not quit on "LOVE" to not quit on finding "MR. RIGHT". I have always believed that things happens for a reason. I might not know why it happens but its crazy how a week ago I was going through my exbf of 8 plus yrs on and off and I wound up seeing him 2x in the same week and ended up having a wonderful conversation and in all honesty, you never know what might happen, just because they are your past now, they might come back into your present/future, and I don't mean that I'ma break up his current relationship so that I can be with him (DONT EVER BE A HOME WRECKER!) I wish him and his gf nothing but happiness and love =D . So another story of that comes from my sorority sister's current relationship, she introduced me to her bf and told me that they dated a couple years back and after they broke up, they dated other people and somehow the two singles found themselves falling for one another again and they make the damnn cutest and strongest couple I've seen. *YOU JUST NEVER KNOW WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN*
I'm not trying to tell you ladies out there to be like me and keep your all your exbf things because I know how much it hurts to sometimes sit there and just cry because the relationship no longer exists and all you have are materialistic things to hold onto. But DO what your comfortable with, trust me, I couldn't throw away anything for a very long time. It took hella baby steps and its a healing process that every girl have to go through. AND if you really want to forget about that person and you yourself can't let go, let your gf's do it for you, but there will be no turning back or regret or biting your gf cuz she did the job for you hahahaha and trust me there is nothing wrong with keeping somethings or not keeping any at all, as long as your strong and comfortable with your decision, because its all about you not him.
I guess I'll share another story hahahah my current relationship situation dilemma evolve from me going through my exbf's things, just like 3 letters that he wrote to me, I remember when we broke up I had given everything and I mean everything that belonged to him and it was so hard because I didn't want to give it back but I knew that if I didn't let him take it out of my hands I would of hurt even more and what's worst was that my bestiee had to take one of the biggest memories of him away from me and hid in under her bed because she didn't want me to have it so I would move on and stop crying over him (EVERY GIRL NEEDS A BESTIEE LIKE THAT! I OWE SO MUCH TO HER, THANKS G.LOU! <3) but I am guilty of not throwing away those 3 letters and I wound up reconnecting with him and I randomly decided to send him an image of the lil drawing he drew on the letter and to my suprise he actually remembers it, not like he remembered that he drew it for me, cuz I'm sure he drew that to all of his other exgf's hahahah (god that was so pathetic of me to share) but the fact that I still had it and I was silly to think that him and I would somehow wound up like my sorority sister and her bf, yeah better luck next time to me (pwnd)
So yeah, as ladies, we all hurt and recover differently and at different pace. It really is up to you and what your comfort level of letting his things go. LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU DID WITH YOUR EXBF THINGS!?1??DID YOU KEEP IT?1?! WHAT DID YOU KEEP!?1? WHAT DID YOU THROW?!!1 SHARE WITH ME =]